Hukama hunogona kuva tsime re mufaro y kuzadzika kwomunhu, asi inogonawo kusangana nematambudziko ayo, kana akasagadziriswa, anogona kutyisidzira kugadzikana mupfungwa uye kubatana pakati pezviviri. Kukakavadzana nguva dzose, kushaikwa kwekukurukurirana, uye nyaya dzisina kugadziriswa zvinogona kukonzera kunetsana kwakadzama pahukama. Nechikonzero ichi, vakaroora vazhinji vanosarudza kuenda kunorapwa kuti vadzore kuwirirana uye kusimbisa chisungo chavo.
Muchinyorwa chino tinoongorora zvakadzama kubudirira of the vaviri kurapa, zvinangwa zvayo zvikuru uye kuti inoshanda sei, kunze kwekuongorora nzira dzakasiyana-siyana uye mamiriro ezvinhu umo zvakakosha. Ziva kuti chishandiso ichi chingave sei kiyi yekumutsiridza hukama hwako.
Chii chinonzi kurapwa kurapwa?
Kurapa kwevakaroorana is a nzira yekurapa yakagadzirirwa kubatsira vakaroorana kuvandudza kukurukurirana, gadzirisa kusawirirana uye simbisa ukama hwako. Inoitwa nerubatsiro rwe a qualified therapist uyo anoshanda semurevereri kufambisa nzvimbo yakachengeteka uye isina kwayakarerekera, apo mapato ese ari maviri anogona kutaura manzwiro avo, zvinovanetsa uye zvavanotarisira.
Chinangwa chikuru ndechekugadzirisa maitiro ekuita izvo zvinokonzeresa kukakavara, cherechedza midzi yezvinetso uye gadzirisa mhinduro dzinoshanda. Kurapa kwevakaroorana hakungotarisi matambudziko akakomba; Inobatsirawo kune vakaroorana vanoda kusimbisa ukama hwavo uye kudzivirira kusawirirana mune ramangwana.
Mukuwedzera, kune zvakawanda nzira dzekurapa, zvakadai se emotion focused therapy, cognitive-behavioral therapy, kubatanidza kurapa uye dzimwe nzira dzinogadzirisa kune zvinodiwa chaizvo zvevakaroorana.
Zvinangwa zvikuru zvekurapa kwevakaroora
Kune akawanda zvinangwa izvo zvinotsvakwa kuti zviwanikwe kuburikidza nekurapa kwevakaroora, zvinowanzoitika ndezvizvi zvinotevera:
- Natsiridza kutaurirana: Dzidza kutaura manzwiro uye zvido zvakajeka uye zvine hushingi, pamwe nekunyatsoteerera kune mumwe wako.
- Healthy conflict resolution: Gamuchira nzira dzinokutendera kuti ugadzirise kusawirirana pasina kushandisa hukasha, kuzvidza kana kutiza.
- Dzorera hukama hwepedyo: Shanda pakugadzirisazve kubatana kwemanzwiro uye kwemuviri muvaviri.
- Simbisa chivimbo: Kunda matambudziko akadai sekusavimbana kunokonzerwa nekusavimbika kana hunhu hwekuregeredza.
- Kurudzira tsitsi: Kurudzira kunzwisisa manzwiro eumwe neumwe nemaonero sehwaro hwehukama hwakasimba.
- Govera maturusi akasarudzika: Dzidzisa unyanzvi hunoshanda kugadzirisa matambudziko azvino uye emunguva yemberi.
Kuti uwane rumwe ruzivo nezve matambudziko anowanzo gadziriswa mukurapwa, shanya zvirimo zvedu nezvematambudziko akajairika mukurapa kwevakaroora.
Kurapa kwevakaroorana kunoshanda sei?
Maitiro ekurapa kwevakaroora anosiyana zvichienderana nekutarisa uye zvakanangana zvinodiwa zvehukama hwega hwega. Kazhinji, yakakamurwa kuva akati wandei fundamental phases:
- Kuongorora kwekutanga: Murapi anoita hurukuro nevaviri ava kuti azive matambudziko avo, zvinangwa uye zvavanotarisira. Muchikamu chino, the maitiro ekudyidzana uye nzvimbo dzakakosha dzinoonekwa.
- Zvinangwa: Kubva pakuongorora kwekutanga, inotangwa zvinangwa zvakajeka uye zvinogoneka pakurapa.
- Kupindira kwekurapa: Murapi anosuma maturusi uye maekisesaizi akagadzirirwa kugadzirisa matambudziko chaiwo evaviri ava. Izvi zvinogona kusanganisira nzira dzekuvandudza kutaurirana, kugadzirisa kusawirirana, kana kushanda pakuvakazve kuvimbana.
- Dzidzira uye mhinduro: Vaviri ava vanoisa hunyanzvi hwawakawana mukuita, zvese muzvirongwa uye muhupenyu hwavo hwezuva nezuva, uye vanogashira feedback kugadzirisa nekuvandudza mazano aya.
- Kuongorora uye kuongorora: Sezvo kurapa kunofambira mberi, kufambira mberi kunoongororwa uye kupindira kunogadziriswa sezvinodiwa.
Nguva yekuenda kune vakaroorana kurapwa?
Zvakakosha kuziva nguva dzekuenda kunorapwa kunogona kuita mutsauko mukuru muhukama:
- Kusawirirana kunogara kusingagadziriswe vari voga.
- Kushaikwa kwekubatana kwepfungwa kana kuremerwa kwemanzwiro.
- Matambudziko ane chekuita nekudanana kana hupenyu hwepabonde.
- Zviitiko zvinoshungurudza zvakadai sokusavimbika.
- Kugadzirira matanho anokosha, akadai semuchato.
Tsvaga zvimwe zvikonzero zvekuenda kune vakaroorana kurapwa uye kuti ingakubatsira sei mumamiriro ezvinhu akasiyana.
Couples therapy chishandiso chine simba kana mapato ese akazvipira kuita. Haikwanise kuchengetedza hukama chete, asiwo inopa a kukura kwakakosha kwemunhu kumunhu wese anobatanidzwa. Kana iwe uchiziva nezveimwe yenyaya dzakurukurwa pano uye uchifunga kuti hukama hwenyu hungabatsirike kubva kune iyi, funga kutsvaga rubatsiro rwenyanzvi kusati kwave zvipingamupinyi zvisingakundiki.
